I think it depends on the cat whether it likes to be close to humans or not, i had 2 cats one that only wanted a cuddle when she wanted to but she didnt liked being picked up to cuddle, she only slept in my bed when it was cold, but my other cat loves having long cuddles andbeing really close to me, hes never really far away from me, they both were rasied in the same way in a loving home and both from kittens but a few yrs apart from eachother, i dont think if you shout or tell your cat off for doing wrong is going to break the bond because they never listen to you anyway, they just give you a funny look like yeah your not gonna be mad at me for long, they know you more than you know yourself, i know my cat loves me.